How To Love Yourself When You Don’t Know How
So one of the things we hear about when we talk about relationships and good mental health is the question, do you love yourself. Learning how to how to love yourself more is not really taught in many areas of one’s life. It is one of those topics that isn’t one of the subjects taught along with the “4 Rs” in school. Some parents do try to help but in most cases are coming from a place of just not knowing how to teach you because, well, they just do not know how themselves.
Many people come to see me with issues about their love life. I get lots of questions asked of me like:
How Does X Feel About Me?
Will we get back together?
Is X cheating on me?
When will I meet my soul mate?
Should I Stay or Should I go?
How Can I Improve My Love Life?
Do We Have a Future Together?
These are all questions about love, right? Not exactly! They are more about self-worth. These and most all love related questions are more about struggling to love yourself. People come to me for answers or healings around their love life. I can’t heal them. What I can do is try to help them get on a path of self-awareness and discovery. I work with you on learning how to love yourself first but I can’t make you do it.
This all about creating that special space for you to learn just how special you are. You are the light of the world but you just don’t know it. Almost all of the issues you may have related to relationships have to do with being able to love yourself first, before loving others. This is even the basis of many issues not related to relationships.
How To Be Confident
If you have issues about work mostly they have to do with you questioning your abilities. Some call this a self-confidence problem. Confidence comes from being assured about who you are. If you cannot perform a specific task to the end that you feel you should be able to accomplish, so what. You try again and again etc. However most will feel down about your efforts. A sense of worthiness or the lack of it slips into your self-talk.
The easiest and best way to gain a true sense of self-confidence is to learn how to love self. Your Self! Your being. When you begin to love yourselves a little more each day, you will be astounded how much better your life will get. People feel better about who you are. You will get those things that you really want like that dream job, A wonderful relationship. Even money will start flowing in your life if that is your dearie.
Do You Love Yourself?
Sounds too simple right? Well, there is something behind it that you aren’t seeing. That is energy. You have heard about the Law of Attraction and manifesting the things that you want. Well, the first rule of being able to do so is that you receive whatever is matching your energy. If your energy sucks so do the results in your life. If your energy is bright and chipper so will those results reflect that.
When it comes to love and relationships the answer to all the questions is exactly the same. As Cheri Huber states in one of her many books “be the person you want to find”. Learn to vibrate at a higher frequency. You are Spirit and spirit is all-powerful. You can transcend time and space. The best way to become reacquainted with your Spirit being, your true higher self, is to meditate.
Why Is It So Hard To Love Yourself
You are the creator of your life. If you are having issues with loving yourself then your life may not be exactly what you want but it will be what your creating. Your reality is a direct result of you. You may have all the excuses in the world. The only one that holds true is that you are having an issue with loving yourself. If you don’t do something about it you will be looking back in a few years and guess what? Things will be the same. You create your reality.
Love is not a noun. Love is a verb. You can not just go out and buy a package of self-love. It is an action that starts and ends with you. The easiest way to love yourself is to just do it. Just choose to forgive yourself easily. Understand and accept your misgivings. And then just do it. Give yourself a hug and tell yourself that you love you. Be kind to yourself. Be satisfied with who you are.
The best time to start loving yourself is NOW. Why not choose love for yourself, what could it hurt.
One way you can start is to listen to this podcast. We speak to Judith Costa, an Unconditional Love Coach. She has a Master’s Degree in Psychology and Psychotherapy and will give us some really great ideas on just how to overcome your inner blocks to Love, to achieve your dreams, and to find happiness.
When I asked Judith how she would inspire you the listener she replied: “My passion is to help YOU have a better relationship with yourself, which will transform your life, allowing you to create more abundance, more wellbeing, and balance, achieve your professional goals, have better relationships and become happier.”
Here are some questions that we ask Judith about Self-Love:
What does it mean to Love your self?
How can you demonstrate the Love that you have for yourself?
Why loving yourself will transform your life?
Why do you need to Love yourself to establish happy relationships?
What can be holding you back from finding love?
How to attract the right relationship for you?
Some people might believe loving oneself selfish – comments?
Repeating patterns in relationships – how to break them?
Why people attract the same kind of partner again and again?
Looking for love outside yourself believing it will solve your problems.
Wanting to know the fate of a relationship (astrology).
How your ideas about Love and relationships are affecting your life?
How do you use astrology to help with your work on love?
How do you use past life & Akashic records to help with your work on love?
Join us on this episode of Unlocking Your Truth, Do You Love Yourself Just As You Are, and take the first step to a whole new you. Start a new page in the how to love yourself book.
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